A Tender Conversation with a Teen experiencing Same Sex Attraction

conversationSSADo you experience Same Sex Attraction (SSA)?

If so, you are loved and welcome in the Catholic church. Please hear me scream that as loud as I can in this blog: You are loved.

As I travel around the country, I have been speaking more intentionally to those who may experience homosexual desires in my chastity sessions. And I have teens come up to me in tears. Many have never heard anyone talk about it at their church or behind a pulpit.

They feel alone. They feel ashamed. And sadly, they feel rejected.

And we as a church must become the face of Christ to them.

Last week, at a Steubenville Conference, a young boy came up to me in tears after my talk.  He said he was “gay.”  I loved this kid, immediately.  I had a long talk with him about Christ and His love. And at the end of the conversation, he asked if he should break up with his boyfriend.

I paused, and looked at him with love.

And this is the hard part of our calling. I had to speak the truth in love.  I shared more about the beautiful teaching of Theology of the Body. I told him about his goodness and about the meaning of chastity. I shared my struggles with him, too. It was a very tender conversation.

At the end of it all, we were laughing.  But it was hard.

There was a huge crucifix behind me with our suffering savior.

I told him: “We don’t want to see the image of suffering. But it is the image of love.”  I pointed to the crucifix and told him to keep his eyes on Him. Let him love you, run to his arms, and reach out to others for support. You are not alone.

There is no shame in Jesus Christ. No shame.

Linked here is an article review about a new movie “Desire of the Everlasting Hills” created by Courage, a Catholic Apostolate which serves to support those who experience same sex attraction, by encouraging a life of Chastity.  It is a movement about love and freedom. There is another way.

The film depicts three compelling stories of people who were in the gay lifestyle and now are not. They too encountered the face of love, and these three people ran to it.

It was in the Catholic Church.



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